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JANUARY (SECOND) 2014 Vol 41, Issue No. 963 BUILDS HAPPY HOMES CONTENTS Founder: Vishwa Nath (1917-2002) womansera.com 7 WHY TOLERATE AN ABUSIVE MARRIAGE? Padmini Singh ARTICLES 22 WHAT NEW YEAR COULD MEAN Leena Narendra Chauhan 84 PRECIOUS WONDER TANZANITE Kusum Mehta 88 WOW! SHAWLS AND BLANKETS Kusum Mehta 36 INDIAN FASHION STEPPING OUT Parul Mathur 11 GREEN DIAMONDS Kusum Mehta 27 12 DOCUMENTS TO SECURE Bhanu Chandran 62 DELICACIES FROM BANANA FAMILY Bhanu Chandran 89 WHAT IS A HICKEY? Prachi Sharma 92 FIGHTING MOSQUSITOES Meneka Gandhi 98 THE WINTER BEVERAGES Mayuri Saxena 106 REFORMING NATURE Abhishek Kumar FICTION 14 HOLDING YOUR HEAD HIGH Kasturi Rangachari 28 NO OFFENCE Kumud Bhatnagar 40 SECOND CHANCE Mina Dilip 52 NOW A FAMED FOOD Malvika Dekhane IMPORTANCE OF BREAKFAST FOR CHILDREN S. C. Dhall THE VANQUISHED Madhu Kamath 90 RENEWING TIES Savitri Babulkar 94 A LONG WAIT Shirley Jobby 86 ENTREPRENEUR TURNED-ACTOR Gayatri T Rao 96 TREATING SCHIZOPHRENIA Dr Sanjay Teotia COOKERY 44 OFFBEAT Spicy Steamed Diamonds Roasted Vegetable Picnic Loaf Rumali Roll Yam Rosetti with Veg Relish Brunch Rolls Glazed Potatoes Spicy Curry Rice Steamed Stuffed Chaat Roasted vegetable picnic loaf OFFBEAT Taste par excellence. By Anupama Gupta 1 SPICY STEAMED /4 tsp soda powder steamer tray put 3 tbsp oil and 1 cup milk soda powder and mix, put the DIAMONDS 3 tbsp oil batter and mix. Steam this mixture 1 tbsp oil for 15-20 minutes. Temper with INGREDIENTS: 1 /2 tsp mustard seeds mustard seeds and cut in 2 corn cobs salt to taste diamond shape and serve hot 1 green chilli 2-3 garlic cloves with fried green chillies or 2 tbsp coriander leaves Separate the corn kernels from chutney. 1 tsp ginger paste the cob. Grind corn kernels, milk, 1 onion (spring onion) green chilli, garlic paste and salt. 1 /2 cup spinach Mix chopped spinach, coriander ROASTED leaves in the corn batter. In Spicy steamed diamonds VEGETABLE PICNIC LOAF INGREDIENTS: 1 /bun/dinner roll 1 brinjal 1 zuccini 2 onions 2 tomatoes 1 bell pepper 1 cup pesto sauce 1 /2 cup grated mozzarella 3 tbsp oil 1 /2 tbsp black pepper powder salt to taste Slice brinjal and zuccini. Put seasoning and oil and grill them 44 Woman s Era January (Second) 2014 for 2-3 minutes both the sides. Put oil and roast bell pepper and take out seeds and cut lengthwise pieces. Finely chop onion and tomatoes. Take the loaf cut the little lid and coop the bread out to make a hollow case. Put a layer of pesto sauce. Layer it with brinjal slices little of mozzarella, layer it with zuccini slices, pesto sauce, chopped onion and tomato. Layer with bell paper, onion, tomato, pesto and lots of mozzarella cheese and put the lid and bake at warm oven for 5-8 minutes at 180 O C. RUMALI ROLL INGREDIENTS: 1 cup flour 1 1 / 2 cup onion tomato roast 1 potato 1 tsp red chilli flakes 1 cup cottage cheese few lettuce leaves 1-2 green chillies 1 tbsp oil Rumali roll Yam rosetti with veg relish 2 tbsp corn powder pepper and corn powder and oil for frying deep fry. Crush cottage cheese salt to taste and mix in with chillies and salt. Take the roti. Put lettuce leaves, Sieve flour, salt and mix in 1 onion tomato roast, cottage tbsp oil and make dough with cheese and fried potatoes and roll water. Roll out very thin and large the chapatti so that all sides are chapatti and warm wrong side up closed. Seal the edges with corn of kadahi (iron) and cook the powder paste and deep fry, roll in chapatti and keep aside. Heat oil hot fry till golden. Serve with and grate potatoes, mix in salt, sauce/chutney. YAM ROSETTI WITH VEG RELISH INGREDIENTS 50 gm yam 50 gm sweet potato 1 capsicum 1 tomato 100 gm green Zuccini 1 onion 1 potato 1-2 green chilli 1-2 clove garlic 4 tbsp oil salt and pepper Wash and peel yam and sweet Woman s Era January (Second) 2014 45
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Itʼs not easy to fight a brutally degrading marital environment but it must be done. By Padmini Singh Women sometimes land in abusive relationships with a wrong husband or in-laws. Abuse can happen to anyone yet the problem is often ignored, overlooked denied or tolerated. It is high time that women are continuously motivated and empowered to resist and fight the uncouth and barbaric attitudes of their husbands and, where it is not possible to stop it, make all efforts to get out of the relationship by opting out of the marriage seeking separation and divorce. Non-physical abuse includes threats, disparaging remarks and abuses. Abusers are very good at controlling and manipulating their victims. Women who are in an abusive relationship often feel depressed, drained, scared, ashamed and confused. They are often isolated from their friends, wellwishers and parents. Understanding that her relationship with her husband and maybe with his family also abusive, one must stand up and resist such uncouth behavior and fight against it or if it cannot be rectified, do escape from the abusive situation.
GREEN DIAMONDS Green than greener, deeper than envy. By Kusum Mehta The rarest coloured diamonds red, green and blue might at first sight seen to be duplicates of respectively, the ruby, emerald and sapphire, but close examination reveals that they are quite different from other coloured gemstones. Just as among other coloured gemstones, pride of place (and of value) is accorded to the ruby, so, too, among diamonds, it is accorded to the red stones, followed by the green and then the blue varieties. Green diamonds are also extremely rare. The crystal coming in contact with a radioactive source like a uranium ore at some moment during its geological formation causes the green colour in a green diamond. Prolonged exposure to alpha particles present in magma or kimberlite in minute quantities, create a green spot or a thin, green coating which is only skin deep but bombardment to the stone by beta and gamma rays will discolour the stone to a great depth and, in some cases, can turn the stoneʼs interior green. Such intensely coloured diamonds are unique. This is just a single instance since the various hues are very exhaustive to explain. So it is very clear why a natural green, untreated diamond would be very valuable. Roughs of green diamonds is segregated into three groups namely a stone with a colour shade similar to water in a swimming pool, or with a yellowish green hue, or with dark green skin. Typically, after being polished, most of these diamonds lose their greenish colour to become white gems or, alternatively, light yellow stones called silvery capes. It is usually only the yellowish green stones that retain their green allure after cutting and polishing. THE BIGGEST GREEN ONE The biggest coloured green diamond in the world is owned by Nittyanand, a scientist of Bangalore, Weighing 1261 carats, this diamond is dark green in colour. He has named this diamond Rampyari after his mother. In 1983, an 8.19 rectangular green diamond was sold at Sothebyʼs for $3,96,000. In 1988, a 202 yellowish/green sold for $1.7 million. The Dresden Green, the stone Marcus Moser found in Golconda, India, is the worldʼs most famous green diamond weighing 40.7 carat with VS 1 clarity. This is a wonderful, almond-shaped, apple-green diamond, its colour making it one of the rarest gems in the world. It has a great history of changing ownership. It is believed to have come from Brazil in 1725. It was bought by Augustus the Strong, the elector of Saxony and king of Poland, who died in 1733, and remained in royal possession during which time it was displayed, coincidentally, in the famous green vaults under the Dresden Palace. The palace was bombed and severely damaged during the Second World War. The Dresden Green, together with other important jewels was hidden in a fortress and so survived the bombardment. In 1945, the Saxon crown green jewels was confiscated by the Soviet Trophies Organisation and taken to Russia. In 1959, there were reports that the treasures had been restored to Dresden, but there was no mention of the Dresden Green diamond among them and it is believed to have been retained for the Moscow Kremlin. The Dresden Green is considered by many as a sister to the ʻHope Diamondʼ which closely matches it in size and intensity of colour. We
Short Story Holding Your Head High Project your self-confidence and self-respect. By Kasturi Rangachari Ihated it all the new place to which we had moved because my father had been transferred yet again, the new house in which we now lived, the new street on which our house was, the new junior college in which my father had managed to get me admission to in the eleventh standard even though it was the middle of the year I hated everything! Why oh why did I have to have a father who had a transferable job? In fact, why did I have to have a father like the one I had at all? A distant, selfabsorbed father who was not interested in me the least bit? Or a mother like the one I had? A self-obsessed, whining mother who knew only to find fault with everything I did, but who didn t care enough to sit down and talk to me? The trouble was that they didn t understand me at all but then, they did not try to. Did they bother to think about how difficult it was for a girl to move from school to school and now from junior college to junior college because her father was moved around from one corner of the country to another with frightening regularity? Did they even pause to wonder how painful it was for a self-conscious, 16-year-old to go through the scary process of making new friends again and again and again? To get used to new ways of doing things, different cultures, a different environment? No, they didn t. In fact, I don t think that they cared enough to even realise that I could have problems. As I got ready for college, I pondered over the matter. Why didn t my parents and I have any kind of rapport? Why did we never ever sit and talk? Why didn t either of them ever ask me how my day had been? Or whether I had been selected for the inter-school competition for which I had tried out? Did they even pause to wonder how painful it was for a selfconscious, 16-year-old to go through the scary process of making new friends again and again and again? E S Why didn t either of them ever say, Be careful and don t talk to strangers, when I left the house or scold me if I was late coming home? In other words, why didn t they love me enough to care about me? But it hadn t always been like this, I remembered. Even five years ago we had been a close, happy family. Why had things changed then? Actually I couldn t remember that anything had happened. Had it just been that I had grown up and had begun to understand things better? Had the earlier closeness and love just been a facade to fool a young girl? After just a week in S.P. Junior College, I knew that I would have a tougher time settling down here than I had had earlier in other places. We had been in metros before this and while my classmates there hadn t been particularly friendly initially, they had had basic big city good manners. But here, in the small town JCI was now studying at, the boys were rowdier and the girls were shriller and divided into cliques. Another strange thing was that boys and girls hardly ever talked to each other. I also realised that my new classmates wouldn t take easily to strangers especially to strangers from the very different world of big cities. On the plus side, however, the standards of studies were lower here and I d probably be able to do better with less effort. But I shivered every day as I got off the bus and moved to the college gate, one of a crowd of students to do so, but feeling scarily alone. I noticed the tall, thin boy wearing none-too-clean jeans and a crumpled T-shirt about a week after I joined the college. He stood at the same bus stand as I did, got into the same bus, got out at the same stop, walked through the gates of the same college